Yesterday during class we put the kids through the motions of a real kyu test, to see what their progress was, and to prepare them to transition into the main class, and start moving up through the ranks.
As we discussed the progress after class, there were no real surprises, but we did end up discussing some of the more esoteric considerations of advancement. It's the unspoken side of belt testing, the part that isn't based solely your ability level at that point.
It's one of the things that I've always appreciated about karate, that your advancement is not based on some flat measurement scale. It takes into account age differences, physical differences, height, weight, gender, flexibility, and so much more. Karate is not "all things to all people", but anybody can do it and benefit from it, and it is forgiving when you get older, or stiffer, when you are weaker physically. The 40-year-old man is not expected to be able to kick as high as the 18-year-old girl, and that girl is not expected to be able to punch as hard as the man. We just aim for our personal best, allowing for our personal constraints.
Yesterday I started to think about the differences that come with age. Although adults can be extremely competitive, they are also supposed to have reached a certain maturity level. Although they might be disappointed to see someone else move ahead of them, they have dealt with these types of disappointments in the past. In fact, it can be the measure of a person, in some ways, to see how they deal with that type of disappointment. Do they work all the harder, to try to catch up? Are they happy for that person despite their personal discontent? Or do they get bitter, slack off, or drop out altogether? I've seen it all, and I've been on both the delivering and the receiving end of such disappointments. I didn't enjoy any of it, and I wish I was mature enough not to let my ego interfere -- but I'm not. All I can do is try to be big about it.
The little ones lack the prior experience. I'm not completely convinced that age brings wisdom, but I do think it blunts the effects of some things. The disappointment of watching your friend advance past you is always tough, but how much harder is it, the very first time? How would it feel to watch a younger sibling advance faster than you do? Sibling rivalry can be very bitter. When 3 or 4 kids start out as a group and get used to working together, how do the others feel if one jumps to a higher group?
It's all part of the growing up process, both in life and in karate, but I'll do what I can to spare them that sting. There are a couple of young ones that I will be pushing a little harder in the next few months, being a little bit pickier with. I will not be pushing them to attain something they aren't able to at this point, just pushing them to go a little faster, because I fear that they would be left behind, and I fear that it would hurt them. If it doesn't need to be that way, then I'll try to help make sure it doesn't work out that way.
Yet another layer of teaching, a nuance that you probably only see after years of experience. I thank Sensei for opening my eyes to this aspect, and giving me some things to ponder in the coming days.
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